Bounce! Not Just a Book, a Way of Life

One day at the beginning of February I committed myself to finish Bounce! by Barry J. Moltz because I had to–I’d just been fired. At the time I didn’t think anyone could relate more to his opening chapter than I did because it was as if my story was being told, except the names were changed to protect the innocent. There I was: 30 years old, married just two years, stuck with a brand new mortgage, and kicked to the curb with one month of severance pay to get on my own two feet… if only I could even comprehend what had happened.

I had failed. Failed as an employee (I guess), failed as a husband, and failed as a member of society. I was down in the dumps and later learned that I met more than enough criteria to be diagnosed with “major depression.” The eternal optimist, I started working on projects I had been dabbling on late into the night for friends and clients the very next day. I listened to the book every day, and with each shower, my business confidence grew and seemingly washed away old concerns.

There are so many good “take-aways” from Bounce! that this would be an article rather than a review to go over everything that impacted our life through the experiences and wisdom Barry poured into these pages. Here are the best bits that directly affected my day-to-day life after failure and my increasing confidence:

  • Failure is not always your fault. Sometimes things just happen out of your control and there is nothing you could do to prevent, prepare for, or postpone every failure. People move, die, cheat. Companies fold, merge, and take you out. Failure will happen to everyone at some point.
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Weaning Away From the Last Few Months

If you’re a regular, you’ll notice a new look around here. Yeah, I just need a new change of scenery, like a divorcee who needs to move and get a new car – same feeling, I’m sure. I found a slew of really nice free themes and have been purchasing a few premium themes for my client sites in the last 2 weeks.

Amazingly, this one is completely out of the box, except for deleting the fixed height of the tags line under the posts for when it needs to wrap to two lines. It’s been a mentally and emotionally rough ride the last two weeks, but I’ve got the best wife a guy could ask for and we’re giving this self-employment shot the best shot I can.

For now, I’m booked for the next two weeks solid with quite a few sites/clients in limbo while we discuss their situation and options before they decide to go forward. It’s been strange to only “work” (by that, I mean bill my time) for 2-5 hours per day, but I can say with absolute certaintly that few things are more satisfying than wrapping up a project, getting the PayPal payment, and getting a “thank you” e-mail with a client testimonial for JessePetersen.com. THAT is what work is supposed to be like. It was, and is again.

Hallelujah for that return to normalcy, if there is such a thing.